Mefore Aday

Mixed Media Artist, aka Mary Aday
b. Tupelo, Mississippi 1985  


Why I made "Average Despair"

Posted on April 10, 2016 at 1:45 PM


I made this ceramic sculpture in response to the idea that most of us have to suit up and go to work, and we are not very happy about it.


I am an artist, I am so lucky to know what I want out of my life and to fully appreciate how fortunate I am, to be doing what I love making Art! Working around the clock to make sure it stays that way. My fall back job is cooking and working in a busy kitchen for 6 summers is how paid off 3 years of Art School debt.

  I have worked relentlessly to get here, exactly where I am today. I come from poverty, and I don’t use that term lightly. I grew up amongst a very large and loud family living in trailers in the woods in Mississippi. The only income that my father ever brought home was Social Security Disability payments, and those didn't start coming in til I was in 6th grade. Before that, we lived in a trailer close enough to family that we could plug orange extension cords to other trailers to have electricity for the evening, when the bills didn't get paid, which was quite often.

 So like I said, if you grew up as poor as I did, in order to have even a regular job, you have to work hard and focus on your future every day. I get to have a unique and creative job, that happens to be my dream. I am so fortunate to have been able to go to art school and learn a skill that is so enriching. Creating Art! I realized quickly after arriving to art school that the strongest muscle that you can flex as an artist is a strong work ethic. My confidence as kid came from my ability to work hard and to see projects through. If I work hard enough the art will be good! If I work harder, then maybe it can be great!


I started "Average Despair" by coiling terra cotta clay and working my way up to top of the neck. The head was also built by coiling, also. The eyes are sculpture wire attached with epoxy. I used an iron oxide wash and a clear coat to finish the piece. There are a few random feathers in the sculpture, but most of the feathers are from the first duck that my husband and I raised, cleaned, and ate. The feathers are also attached with epoxy.


I have always searched for “greener pastures”. It is my nature. It is the reason that I live 2,000 miles away from hometown. I know that this feeling of wanting more, is not a unique feeling, I am not alone in this desire to have it better than I already do. It’s an average feeling, being restless, unsettled, even extraordinary people suffer from it. I think especially extraordinary people suffer from it. I believe that this un-satisfaction in life can lead to change, but being grateful for what you already have is what leads to happiness.


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Please check out my work at the Columbia Center for the Arts in Hood River, Oregon, on Display through April. 






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